We were around ten eleven people growing up together almost of the same age in our locality and always together. Getting ready for school quite early and shouting at each other from the front of their houses in full blast and another one came running from their house even though the uniform buttons were tied in the road . Reached school just before time as a lot of activities on the road were carried out and some days were punished with kneeling down in front of the class for reaching school late before the prayer . During going to school we discussed our evening plan we the friends boys and girls and our fertile brain comes out with all kind of ideas to celebrate our evenings .Someone will come out with some information, like in which house in the neighborhood, what fruits etc. are available and we take quite long time in reaching home after school is closed and get busy in all our adventure on the road. Grape Fruit (‘Robab Tenga’) was used by us including the girls in our group for playing football .Girls were generally goalkeepers. If not available , we are very busy with some kind of other games. After reaching home from school , immediately have our food as fast as possible and run to meet our friends . By the time we reached back home, it became nearly dark and our dress became full of dirt . Getting scolding was routine . After all these , when we reached our study table , we felt too tired and sleepy and were waiting for our dinner and gulping whatever was on the table . Naughtiness is a part of those days which when we recollect now , gives us enough enjoyment and those scenes are coming vividly in our front . We play in the open when we enjoy ourselves with new inventions in our games ,there is no shortage of ideas. Discuss and carry out all mischievous activities and come to our house sometime late, frightened to get the scolding of our parents .I still remember such happy days and those childhood friends are still getting crazy to meet each other when they get an opportunity .
As we grow , friends are gradually changing and our ideas of our spending times change with new brilliant ideas . The participation of the girls were coming down , and as our studies keeping us busy , we get less time to spent with our friends .But when we get time one is running to others house , to spent some beautiful time and our parents also consider all of us as their child and whatever best was prepared in the family was shared with all our friends .The seniors of the locality , considered us as part of their family too and take care of us by a beautiful smile and a hug or scolding when necessary . That time though we feel bad , but as we grow up we understand their love for us and regard them . With the Changing of society ,the people are getting busier and busier and the competition to get a seat in all educational institute , taking away the childhood friends gradually away from each other , no one has time . Competitions everywhere make all of us mechanical and if a child has some spare time, get busy with computer games or glued to the Tv thereby physical activities are coming down except for very few . Childhood friends are now gradually becoming a thing of the past to a certain extent specially in the urban areas .World is changing too fast and competitions are so hard that the younger generation of people hardly manage time like us in the earlier days. However, people can not survive without friends , because all need to discuss their ideas, personal matters with their friends and gossip which is a gift to the mental health of any person.There is always a need of a support system in place beyond the family with whom one can share their personal matters and have confidence with . So, new ideas of forming friendships are gradually coming into existence and people are happy using such technological facilities making new friends to share some quality time with them even if only a few of them met each other physically.
Good morning
Thank you for accepting my request
From the other side a thumbs up.
Gradually the conversation started , from hello , hi to longer sentences .With the increase in frequency of messaging . Without knowing each other, people are getting closer and closer spending hours with new found friends through the internet . Everything in this world has some plus and some minuses, luckily, the numbers of pluses outweigh the minuses and social media like facebook and messenger are growing everyday . Everyday some friend requests were received or sent and on acceptances , messengers started working with the newly found friend .However , some miscreants also sometime become friends who have to be deleted sooner or later. It is a totally different world and several groups of people got busy in this new world for different reasons . Lot of people are also using these social media for other than friendship purposes and a lot of people have become victims of trusting their new found friend.
The younger generation of people normally get engaged with their video games and also make friends for sharing their ideas and also getting advice from people of their interest as a friend . The introverts are more engaged for new realisation of the ease of communicating with the opposite sex without being met them face to face . Sometimes those lead to happy friendships later and sometimes have some very opposite kinds of realisations
Sometimes the conversations are very constructive and helpful to know the world and get a lot of information, if correct contacts are made .
The older generation , also getting very much involved and these activities are a very good way to spend their time as nowadays most of the nuclear families have their children out for studies or job and the old couple are left alone . In FB they found a very useful tool to spend time with all generations of the people and sometimes they can guide the youth with their long experiences of life and have gather ideas about the change in thinking of the new generations , but they are also become sometime victim of some scrupulous elements because they are new to this world of Information technologies and new tools and apps are being used to lure them.
Another group of people who found this a very good platform and getting involved in this media are housewives who are not in any job and after sending her kids to school and husband leave for work , remain idle and passing time is becoming very boring . These media give them some company and friends and lot of new talents are coming out who never wrote a line earlier are publishing their poem and other writing skills .They also like people appreciate their work or photograph in different occasions and therefore uploading them and communicate with their friends all about themselves whether going for some tour or some performances of them or their family . In seconds like or response started coming and it is a pleasure to read the beautiful comments of their new friends as no one normally writes the actual comments . Both will be happy . Then starts the process of sending reply likes and time passes very nicely .
This really a very different world being created and a gift to the human kind .However some people, even after becoming friends , never communicate and only enjoy the messages without any reactions . That may also be fun for them.
I also started spending some time in these media to refresh myself without being seriously involved but gradually became addicted to these social media and tried to make friends with all age/gender groups after getting retired from services. I started making friends with all age groups and professions knowing fully well that hardly , I have any real friendship growing with most of them and only very few are becoming friends and we enjoy passionate time with those very few . For others , it is a routine hello/ hi and some like and beautiful comments on either’s writing sometimes even without understanding what actually he/ she wants to convey . But as a friend immediately liked that with a beautiful comment .So both feel good . If I take a photograph which is uploaded and some friends write very nicely , Definitely it brings a smile to our face.So I started to study how the people react in these media and it gives me enough pleasure . One more important media like whatsapp , new social groups were now created and people who were not in contact with their once close friends for long are now again getting connected through these social groups and getting together is becoming amongst them very frequent . Professionally also it helps in knowledge sharing and sometimes quick communication for management decision making with online discussions .A great thing our generation people have hardly thought about . Days of physically meeting and playing with friends are almost over , as no one has time . Both parents are working , school started early and kids are travelling long distances to and from school by bus or private transport and tuition starts after they come back home which most of the parents feel is necessary (unlike during our days) and till their parents come back either they are alone or busy with video game or TV or may be with some caretakers. Days of Physical friendship are now limited to the school time only.
TO BE CONTINUED
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